Remember to trust the process !
Life is not supposed to be easy, glamorous and fun all the time. During our existence, we get to live hardship, and from the bottom of my heart, I do think that that is what makes us the person we are today. I do believe that the difficult moments are what forge us and strengthen our personalities. Easy times are here to celebrate the hardships we live.
With that being said, difficult times are here from different situations that we put ourselves in right? And today, I decided to talk about BREAKUPS! I have already filmed a video about this but I feel like writing about it today, you know, talking from heart to heart.
I love it that you all think of me as this strong independent woman that needs absolutely no one, which is 9 out 10 times right, but it doesn't mean that I don’t get to be vulnerable and heartbroken as well. In this blog today, I am not going to tell you how to move on, but I am going to tell you how I feel during those time so you can relate and be hopeful that it will end because at the end of the day the love you used to give it to that person you will have to redirect it to yourself and that exactly how you end the “suffering”.
By breakups, I don’t only mean the end of a love relationship, not at all. Yes that shit is very painful but the end of every beautiful (or not) thing can also be painful and some are more than others. Whether it is a love relationship, friendship, family or even leaving a job that really meant a lot to you, for me that is a breakup.
What I wanted to tell you today is very basic, but I do think it is very important. It is okay, it is temporary and trust me, it will end. You know the pain you are feeling now in your heart and the ball in your throat and the desire to cry but there are no tears, I promise you it will end. I do suggest though that you feel it, you cry it and you make yourself live it. It is unbelievably important that you let yourself go in this first phase. You have to be aware that if you think that this is a sign of weakness and you have to be stronger than this, you are WRONG. You have to live it and you have to be able to process all these feelings because if not, they will be living somewhere in you and they will take surface again, and that my friend is dangerous.
From my personal experience, as many of you know, I have a very selective memory, but I do make sure that I feel bad when I have and I don’t let myself kind of forget it. Some people need more time than others , we process feelings and face hardship differently . Put it this way, if you are going to fake that you are okay, posting pictures, do as if nothing is wrong with YOU, you are only hurting YOU. Remember the blog about how to love yourself and how to do that, here’s another advice (if I didn’t already said it), the love that you are giving to the other person (love, friend, relative, etc), put it towards yourself, just shift the direction.
So honey, let yourself be free in every single way. Do not pretend, do not fake and especially do not shame yourself because you are not feeling okay. It is a matter of time before the butterfly in you sees the light and you will be so FREAKING proud that you won’t be able to sleep from joy.
Riri.
